Thank you! All of our days are certainly not marked by “calmness” but the more effort I can bring towards the tone of our home, the better it is for everyone! Several of my kids don’t have a natural bent towards a calm nature, so my influence in this area is essential ; )
The idea that mothers help set the emotional tone of a home resonated with me; calm rarely arrives by accident, it’s formed through small faithful habits lived daily. Your emphasis on ordinary practices — candles at dinner, quiet time, shared gratitude — feels almost liturgical, like building a sacred space inside everyday family life. I often write about how meaning is formed in these small repeated moments rather than big milestones, and your post reflects that beautifully. If you’d ever like to read along, you’re warmly invited here: https://theeternalnowmm.substack.com/p/eternal-love?r=71z4jh
Yes for sure! I hope it goes well for you! We’re always changing and tweaking our chore routines as my kids get older and can take on more responsibility, so it’s a process : )
These are great and totally doable. I have recently got out of the habit of getting up before the kids (or riiiiiight before them) and it makes such a difference when I get about an hour of time before they get up. It sets the tone for the day. Outside time is a must. I can tell when it's been too cold or too rainy too many days in a row. The house seems sooooo chaotic!! But once they've gotten that outside time, everything resets and goes back to normal! I also love the reset idea at the end of the day. Just to put everything away. I get into the mode of trying to clean up all throughout the day, and it's not reasonable. One big sweep at the end of the day seems a lot more manageable. Thank you for these!
Emily, yes it sounds like we have a very similar mindset when it comes to controlling chaos with kids at home! None of these things are groundbreaking but when a few of them are in place it just sets so much more calmness as the tone.
But they are good reminders because when things get chaotic (as they are apt to do), the pendulum can swing hard the other way and we think we need all these crazy ways to manage a calm household! But really it’s just a few manageable routine things that can help!
Any tips on getting kids to do quiet time? My kids are 3 and 5 and I never implemented one and now I feel it’s too late 😭 when I try to do it they come out of their rooms constantly
I don’t think it’s ever too late to establish a habit like quiet time! Here is my post that I wrote on our rhythms of quiet time. The most important thing is to start small and not expect young kids to do an hour+ right at the start.
I love this post, Mollie! Just reading what you share evokes a sense of calmness! All of your suggestions are spot on, sweet friend! 🙌
Thank you! All of our days are certainly not marked by “calmness” but the more effort I can bring towards the tone of our home, the better it is for everyone! Several of my kids don’t have a natural bent towards a calm nature, so my influence in this area is essential ; )
It certainly is, sweet friend! 🥰 Have a wonderful day!
The idea that mothers help set the emotional tone of a home resonated with me; calm rarely arrives by accident, it’s formed through small faithful habits lived daily. Your emphasis on ordinary practices — candles at dinner, quiet time, shared gratitude — feels almost liturgical, like building a sacred space inside everyday family life. I often write about how meaning is formed in these small repeated moments rather than big milestones, and your post reflects that beautifully. If you’d ever like to read along, you’re warmly invited here: https://theeternalnowmm.substack.com/p/eternal-love?r=71z4jh
Very good advice! I just started implementing age appropriate chores and what a game changer!
Yes for sure! I hope it goes well for you! We’re always changing and tweaking our chore routines as my kids get older and can take on more responsibility, so it’s a process : )
These are great and totally doable. I have recently got out of the habit of getting up before the kids (or riiiiiight before them) and it makes such a difference when I get about an hour of time before they get up. It sets the tone for the day. Outside time is a must. I can tell when it's been too cold or too rainy too many days in a row. The house seems sooooo chaotic!! But once they've gotten that outside time, everything resets and goes back to normal! I also love the reset idea at the end of the day. Just to put everything away. I get into the mode of trying to clean up all throughout the day, and it's not reasonable. One big sweep at the end of the day seems a lot more manageable. Thank you for these!
Emily, yes it sounds like we have a very similar mindset when it comes to controlling chaos with kids at home! None of these things are groundbreaking but when a few of them are in place it just sets so much more calmness as the tone.
But they are good reminders because when things get chaotic (as they are apt to do), the pendulum can swing hard the other way and we think we need all these crazy ways to manage a calm household! But really it’s just a few manageable routine things that can help!
Any tips on getting kids to do quiet time? My kids are 3 and 5 and I never implemented one and now I feel it’s too late 😭 when I try to do it they come out of their rooms constantly
I don’t think it’s ever too late to establish a habit like quiet time! Here is my post that I wrote on our rhythms of quiet time. The most important thing is to start small and not expect young kids to do an hour+ right at the start.
https://thisevergreenhomeschool.com/p/the-simple-rhythm-of-daily-quiet?r=fo2rk
We have a lot of overlap. It always cracks me up how 1-2 candles at dinner completely changes my kids’ mood!
Exactly! I love the simple habit of candles at dinner.